my answer to this: sometimes...
Unfortunately, when I encounter a question framed the wrong way or framed in such a way that I perceive it differently.. quiet differently from what the person intended - I do one of the following things:
I either answer it with reference to my understanding.
Or
I try to correct the question or rather ask the questioner/ interrogator to clarify/correct/explain himself or herself.
In the first place, if a person is not a good listener, he/she can never have the ability to dissect a person's question or ask the person to explain further.
So everyone else in the world would like to believe about themselves .. I'm a good listener too, and I never lose track :)
But I do have a problem with loaded questions, where ppl try to build a question on their perception of things
Question: So, I have already recognized ABC to be the problem area for this case. So How do you plan to solve it?
My answer: In the first place ABC is not the problem area as it might appear to be. We have a multitude of things here like X, Y and Z. So I can't give you a solution or a discussion regarding ABC.
End of discussion.
If ppl have a problem realizing that I'm not dissecting them, rather showing the loop holes in their assumptions and questions built on assumption.. I have nothing else to say except..
God Bless You!
So it would be stupid on the interrogator's part to think philosophically abt changing himself/herself.
He/She needs just understand that the parties involved in the discussion don't look at the problem in question eye to eye.
Their individual cause-effect or problem-solution patterns and concepts would be entirely different.
To add to all this, as mentioned above, the ambiguity of the question is always there.
All this being said, I accept that my views/analysis/criticism may be quite harsh sometimes. I totally take blame for tht and I'm working on it.
These are just my personal views... not intended to criticize or comment the write-up or the author's views :)
2 comments:
thats actually a gr8 and as far as i knw the best way of listening to people but the size of shown loopholes will have a variation of intensities along the time frame of the discussion.Which inturn depends on the state of both the questioner and respondent.So some time patience might help.
Like I said, I'm working on it! :)
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